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I Wish I Could Tell You It Gets Better

Quote by Joan Rivers, "Listen. I wish I could tell you it gets better. But, it doesn't get better. You get better."

As we navigate the chapters of our lives, there's a timeless wisdom that resonates, captured in Joan Rivers' profound words: "Listen. I wish I could tell you it gets better. But, it doesn't get better. You get better."


The significance of these words reminds us that each new day is an opportunity to shape the narrative of our lives ... an opportunity to craft the next chapter of our story.


Recently, I found inspiration in the pages of the book "Arete: Activate Your Heroic Potential" by Brian Johnson. What initially captivated me was the book's title, coincidentally the name of my mother. Delving into its contents, I discovered a treasure trove of insights on goal achievement.


One such treasure I found is Johnson's, simple yet transformative advice:


"See what’s working.

Celebrate that.

See what needs work.

Get on that.



Based on these words, success is more than just achieving goals, it’s about recognizing what works, embracing improvement, and repeating the cycle for growth.


The subsequent reminder is equally powerful:


“We win. Or, we learn. And learning IS winning so we win or we win.”


In the pursuit of our aspirations, every experience becomes a victory or a valuable lesson. Embracing this mindset, we transcend beyond the fear of failure, realizing that each setback is actually a steppingstone for us to learn from.


So, let's commit to setting and achieving new goals. Let's embrace challenges as opportunities for growth, viewing setbacks not as roadblocks but as guideposts along the way.


In this ongoing narrative of self-discovery, let's continuously evolve into the best versions of ourselves.



  1. Reflect on Achievements: Take a moment to identify and celebrate your recent successes, no matter how small. Reflect on what has worked well for you in various aspects of your life. Acknowledge your strengths and accomplishments.

  2. Set Micro-Goals: Break down your larger goals into smaller, achievable tasks. Following Brian Johnson's advice, focus on what needs work and take concrete steps to address those areas. These micro-goals will make the journey more manageable and the progress more tangible.

  3. Learn from Setbacks: Rather than viewing setbacks as failures, reframe them as opportunities to learn. Identify the lessons embedded in challenges and setbacks. Embrace the mindset that learning is a form of winning, and every experience contributes to your growth.

  4. Create a Growth Mindset Ritual: Establish a daily or weekly ritual to foster a growth mindset. This could involve journaling about your learning experiences, expressing gratitude for what's working, and setting intentions for continuous improvement. Consistency in this practice will reinforce a positive mindset.

  5. Connect with a Support System: Share your goals and aspirations with a supportive friend, family member, or mentor. Having a support system can provide encouragement, guidance, and accountability. Share your victories and challenges and allow their perspectives to enrich your journey of self-discovery and growth.


Here's to an unwavering commitment to produce not just a new story, but a BETTER story of our lives.


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